How did I get here?

With a laundry basket on my hip or a brief case on my shoulder, I’ve looked longingly at the laptop during the last couple of months. I just haven’t been able to squeeze it in. It feels so good to be back again. It’s hard to know where to start, so I’ll just dive in.Last …

Sitting in the Charnel Ground

Heads-up: This post contains some dark images, but I’m letting them out in the hopes of letting some sunlight in, shining some light onto what I’m sure many struggle with. The moment starts out mundanely enough. Standing in line for coffee at our local donut shop, I attempt to distract myself from the racks of …

A new perspective on sinking and swimming

Other people’s dreams can be so tedious, I know, but it can’t be helped. I’m at a support group with other parents of special needs kids; I can’t see the other participants (am invisible to them, too) because the room is all obstructed views. I ask if we can re-arrange the seats, but am told that …

Expanding the circle of “us”

You don’t know how it feels to be me.” Tom Petty Community is a wonderful thing, a place where we feel a deep sense of belonging, a place where we feel seen.  The special needs parenting community has been particularly healing for me. Connecting with people who understand my challenges, my fears and my anger releases or lightens …

Gloriousness and Wretchedness

Life is glorious, but life is also wretched. It is both. Appreciating the gloriousness inspires us, encourages us, cheers us up, gives us a bigger perspective, energizes us. We feel connected. … On the other hand, wretchedness–life’s painful aspect–softens us up considerably. Knowing pain is a very important ingredient of being there for another person. …