Care mapping conversation deepens on Huff Post Live

The HuffPo article by Lisa Belkin, “Gabe’s Care Map,” generated a lot of conversation and interest in creating data-rich, holistic snapshots of just what it takes to raise our kids. I’ve heard from lots of parents who are already making their own. It’s so exciting! Lisa and I continued the conversation on Friday on a …

Opportunity for advocacy: Did you make a care map?

My care map generated a lot of attention and new friends over the last few days. There’s a media request for follow up from folks who went ahead and made their own. If you did and you’d be willing to share it, please let me know by leaving a comment. Thanks!

Love, even when it’s hard

Lisa Belkin at the Huffington Post did a wonderful story on me, my family and my Care Map on Friday. So many good things are coming out of it: new friends, new thought partners, new mentors, new opportunities. In some ways, the impact is easiest to capture in the stats: 9,000 visits to the blog, …

Thanking our village

I just spent the morning dipping Oreos for teachers and helpers, which is apparently now my signature teacher gift. (Can something be “signature” after only two times?) It got me thinking back to last year’s post, which is still completely relevant for my frame of mind today.

Bushwacking: Four stages of becoming a family leader

Becoming a leader can feel intimidating. It requires new skills and courage at every step. It can be helpful to notice that leaders aren’t “born with it,” but are called to it. We can learn these skills. If we’re lucky, we have support and friendships for companionship along the way.

Answering questions together

Last weekend I travelled to Washington DC to help create a new model for government-funded medical research. As a parent of a child with special needs who spends most of my time thinking about children with special needs, this 150-person patient summit was one of the most diverse groups of patient stakeholders I’d ever been …

A gift from the messengers

Looking at one of the paintings, for one moment I am able get my arms around the fullness of my own parenting experience. The terror and the peace. The peace and the terror. It’s there, in oil on board, just right there in four square feet, inviting me to react, to feel it, to stay with it. So I do.

I get by with a little help from my friends

Researchers at Brigham Young University recently released findings that for people raising young children with disabilities, certain types of social relationships are typically more harmful and others more helpful for parents.

Getting into the driver’s seat

In my 10 years as a parent of a child with significant medical and developmental challenges, I had significant “a-ha” change in my level of consciousness just a couple of years ago. So significant that it almost deserves a personal equivalent to the B.C. and A.D. of our Western calendar. That’s how big a deal …

Secret hand gestures

It’s in moments like this that I wish there was a secret hand gesture
, a high-five or a thumbs up, that would let that other person know: “Hey, I’ve been there. I see you. You’re doing a great job. If you need a hand, let me know.”