You get me…you really, really get me

I just came home from two days of special needs parent training. It was the kind of weekend that makes my life seem almost glamorous—free hotel with a glorious night of uninterrupted sleep, food flowing all day with no dishwasher to load afterward, a cozy bar with a fireplace…oh, yeah, and the chance to learn a …

Dear School Photographer

Today is one of those perennial childhood milestones -- School Picture Day. Along with a check for $24 and a form selecting Package D with a “Scenic Background” upgrade, my child brought in the following note to his school photographer (and before you flip out, let me assure you he can't read): Dear Photographer, My …

Perfection is the enemy of done

It’s been nearly a year since my three meager posts. The blog that started in a rush of eagerness to ponder, reflect and explore sputtered and stalled. What happened? Enemy, thy name is Perfection. I don’t consider myself a perfectionist. I’m certainly not detail oriented, as many of my former managers and my dear spouse …

“Just keep going. No feeling is final.”

"This too shall pass." "Hang in there." Such advice is given usually at the moment we least want to hear it, when we'd rather just punch the messenger right in the nose. But the message is wise and true. Just keep going. No feeling is final. With each breath and with each step, it turns into something else.

My love/hate relationship with Mamma Bear

Whenever I have an aversion to use a word or phrase that everyone else seems to love, I've started to realize it's worth exploring. This week, a phrase that seems to be beloved in our special needs community has been caused me to wince several times. And that phrase is: Mamma Bear. I know that probably …

The difference between pain and suffering

Like "peanut butter and jelly" or"cookies and milk," the concepts of "pain and suffering" just sort of go together in my vocabulary and in my mind. As a parent of a child with special needs, I have found great relief in exploring the difference between the two. During a talk at my local meditation center a couple of years ago, a …