Expanding the circle of “us”

You don’t know how it feels to be me.” Tom Petty Community is a wonderful thing, a place where we feel a deep sense of belonging, a place where we feel seen.  The special needs parenting community has been particularly healing for me. Connecting with people who understand my challenges, my fears and my anger releases or lightens …

Plate techtonics

I’m on shaky ground this week, dizzy and disoriented. I can’t find a linear thread here so I toss out all these puzzle pieces hoping to make a coherent picture in the end. — Last week I jealously listened to a couple of parents on a panel share their memories of receiving their children’s diagnosis …

Reading: My Baby Rides the Short Bus

As a parent of a child with special needs, I often shy away from memoirs and auto-biographies of self-advocates and family members.  I know I should want to be more informed, but after a day of IEP meetings, behavior plan implementation and toilet training, I tell myself that I simply can’t find the energy, let …

Scene from a breakfast table

INT. AT A BREAKFAST TABLE – MID-MORNING The table is set for four although only two people sit at the table — an energetic seven-year-old DAUGHTER and a slightly groggy and disheveled woman, her MOTHER. At the two other place settings, a full but untouched bowl and a cup of obviously cold coffee sit opposite …

What do you do all day?

Not too long ago I ran into an acquaintance. We were getting caught up on things and I told him how I had sold my business a year ago so that I could focus on my child’s needs full-time. “But doesn’t he go to school all day?” he asked. “What do you do all day?” …